Potty training is different for each child. When it comes down to it, you have to be flexible.
Aubrey turned four years old in September and unfortunately, still is not fully potty trained. Ultimately, I think a key issue was she’s had constipation issues and I honestly think she is afraid to go. When discussed with the pediatrician, we didn’t get very far. We’ve treated her based on ER trips for the issue and try to help her in various ways that we can.
If there is one thing I’ve learned from Aubrey, she LIVES for positive praise and reward. When she knows there is a reward for going potty, she takes initiative to get herself to the bathroom. I decided over the weekend that I would be starting a “Reward Chart” for both Kelsie and Aubrey. Aubrey’s reward chart focuses primarily on potty training goals.
While there have still been accidents, we are all learning together.
Here are some tips for potty training:
- Let your child set the pace. DON’T force the issue. Look for cues your child is ready to potty train.
- No matter how frustrated with your child, do not get angry. Accidents happen, your child isn’t being lazy.
- Take your child shopping for underwear. Make it fun-Bright colors, their favorite cartoon character. Let them know by going to the bathroom like a “Big Girl/Boy”, they can wear big kid underwear.
- Make the bathroom available. If a bathroom is on another floor, have a potty seat where they can gain instant access.
- Reward your child with positive reinforcement. Treats, stickers, let your child know what they earn for each time they do things such as the following:
- Going potty
- Washing hands
- Staying dry for an extended period of time
Just because an older sibling might have trained differently than a child, do not compare.
Since there has been a continued issue, we plan to make another doctor’s appointment with our doctor to have Aubrey checked out and referred possibly to a GI doctor. If you have a child that complains of pain or you find constantly straining, crying, etc., it’s time to ask your doctor for help.
What helped when it came to potty training your child?